Thursday, April 14, 2011

The Secret to Raising Pious Children

Assalamualaikum,
After reading my post title you must be waiting for a secret to be unveiled. However, there is no secret, to my dismay. Supposedly, raising pious children is all common sense! The way you desire your children to be: fearing Allah (swt), praying, fasting, etc,  parents must first be like that and set an example!! I know it seems so easy and logical, but seriously, I never thought of it like that. All my life, Aunties and Uncles would say "Beta, go read namaz" and then recline back to watch the latest drama on dish. If the elders are not steadfast in Islam, how will children be the 'coolness of their eyes' by practicing Islam?!?
I realized this from the great Sheikh Yasir Qadhi's lecture Parenting with Purpose and Examplehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A0hxqJLeX3g
Here are some pointers from his lecture that I learned and will use in raising my baby into a pious Muslim Inshallah. 


  • Maintaining an Islamic environment: Pray salah together as a family. Make the Quran a part of daily life by reading and learning the meaning of it together. Set aside  10 minutes a day to do Zikr with your family. Read Islamic books or watch Islamic videos (youtube has lots of them :) ) 
  • Raising Teenagers: Treat teenagers of age 14-15 like adults and they will start behaving like adults. For example, when Allah (swt) commanded Ibrahim (AS) to sacrifice his Ismael (AS), Ibrahim (AS) went to his son and asked for his opinion. Ibrahim (AS) was obviously going to do the sacrifice, but he consulted his son and treated him like an adult. He knew his son was an obedient Muslim and would accept the command of Allah as well. This shows that we must treat our teenagers starting the age of 14-15 as adults instead of little kids. 
  • WALK the TALK: Do you want your child gossiping, backbiting, neglecting prayers, constantly listening to music, smoking, etc? If not, then stop doing it yourself, and set a positive example for them! Show them how a Muslim is and Inshallah your children will follow in your footsteps
Alhamdulillah I have learned a lot about raising children and will be implementing these ideas with my husband and baby. I hope you gain some benefit from these ideas also . Make sure to read this dua after your salah and Allah will help you in your efforts to raise a happy Islamic family. Inshallah
Dua for Pious Children/Family
"Rabbana hablana min azwajina wa dhuriyyatina qurrata A'yunin waj'alna lil-muttaqina imama."
Translation:
Our Lord! Grant us in our wives and offspring the coolness of eyes
and make us a leader of those who guard themselves against evil.(25:74)

5 comments:

  1. keep the awesome knowledge coming inshallah :)!

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  2. loves the writing..should write more:p

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  3. Jazakallah Sister!! Your words are very motivating and help me when I am writing! Thanks for the love xoxo!

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  4. we need to get together and discuss with each other with our children about piousness and how to maintain pious environment.

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